Words… God gave us two ears and one mouth. Obviously the purpose of us having one mouth is to hear more with the two ears given. People use to question Lord Buddha with lots of questions. However, he was as wise as able to answer any questions thus He had and taught us the noble silence. He doesn’t answer questions from questioners who questions without understanding or knowing what he himself is asking for. Also, there were questioners who questioned just to test Lord Buddha of how capable or wise He is. Yes, to such questioners, Lord Buddha did not answer them. He had a noble silence.

Why did he do that? It was simply because He knows that those questioners weren’t ready to face the facts or even the answer was given they wouldn’t understand. Lord Buddha was a great teacher, full of compassion and wisdom. He teaches and answers to those whom really want to learn with a true heart. Again, words are carefully placed when Lord Buddha speaks. He used the right words, at the right time according to the right situations. He used noble silence when it was necessary.

Words: the power of destructions and the power of enlightenments. We may think it is good to be honest with our opinions and speak out entirely of what is in your mind. However, it may end up a disaster. We might unintentionally hurt our love ones. Especially when we’re angry and unable to control our emotions, we unintentionally yell and pour out hurtful words to our love ones even when we are stressed out in other matters. Our love ones becomes the victim. Also it might be too late to apologize when guilt conquers your heart.

In another words, uncontrollable words spoken when we’re angry have devastating effects. Once spoken, it’s too late to say you’re sorry. Our tongue is sharper than the edge of a sword says the old folks and it is very true. Time may heal such wounds in the heart, but the mark remains. The person whom you hurt will forever remember of what you have said which hurt them. Words have many effects may it be in good terms or bad terms. Sometimes the words we used unemotionally will haunt us back in certain ways.

As Henry Nouwen once put it "Words can bring consolation, comfort, encouragement, and hope. Words can take away fear, isolation, shame, and guilt. Words can reconcile, unite, forgive, and heal. Words can bring peace and joy, inner freedom and deep gratitude. Words, in short, can carry love on their wings. A word of love can be one of the greatest acts of love." ("Bread for the Journey," June 22). There is a lot of goodness in words if we use it carefully. The happiness we give to others will bestow a thorough happiness back to us.

I’ve learn the hard way about words. Many times I’ve used words unintentionally which caused others to feel hurt. Then I would regret why did I say it but it is always too late. Time which passed us by will never return. So does our words…

Not long ago if i am not mistaken last Friday, i went to college with Casey to play ping pong in the afternoon. However that meeting was really and would be a memorable one. In that ping pong session we played nearly about 2 hours, but we weren't tired at all. While playing we did share our childhood moments and memories. Glad to have known Casey whom still remembers all the havoc and mischievous behaviors we had done during our primary and secondary school as well. We spoke a lot of stuffs and really made us laugh out loud till our stomachs hurt.

Now we realize during our primary school moments, there were a lot of stupid rules which was enforced to us. However we didn't realize it during that time, but we took it very seriously of all even the smallest stupidest rules or actions which was taken by the school administration. Haha.. but those were the moments; moments when now we do not remember the day, the date, nor the time of our childhood adventure thus now all we have with us are those sweet memories. Funny how time flies. Each of our friends who was close now remains in distance. Once recognized, but now forgotten, or some ignores.

The credits shall be given for those who remember those moments. Credit shall be given for those who treasures their childhood moments. I am curious, how people cannot remember of what and how they were during their schooling moments. There was so much fun, hatred, anger, pain, sorrows, joys, boredom, all the feelings we shared together. Now at least there are friends who remain with us from primary school until today. How nice to know that they are still our friends and still in touch with us.

Speaking of the past, yes, many times we fall. We fall since we started to walk from crawling as a baby. Many experiences have let us down, some has affected is in many ways. i am speaking of all the experience from being a kid till today. Thus, everything we experience last time will influence us to become how we are now. It's the same as how you are now, influences how you would be in the future. Name me anyone who live their lives without problems?

When I and Casey discussed about our schooling moments, deep within myself i seek the opportunity to look at myself since young till where i am now. So many things i've gone through thinking I wouldn't go through. Thinking i will fall but i didn't. Why?? It's because i am still here!! I've learnt nothing is permanent, everything shall pass. There were times i couldn't move on anymore, but now i am far away from such moments. I realize i am stronger, far stronger person now.

Robert use to tell us, "Do not react but act"… during those times i didn't understand what the exact meaning behind it until recently. Do not react to any situations which you have no control over. If you do react, then you will controlled by the situation. On the other hand if you learn to act, the situation which is not in your control will turn into your control. The power is in your mind and in your heart.

Most of us are heart rulers, which mean we do things following according to our hearts and emotions. There are also people who are mind rulers, which mean they do what their brain says or mind says. They follow principles. I've met such people before, but i have to admit; if you're a heart ruler you'll bound to suffer forever, and so does the mind rulers too will suffer forever. We are supposed to be in between; being half of mind rulers and heart rulers. Which mean behaving according to situations or by analyzing your situations first before acting towards the situation. i'm still learning and trying...

Well, i wouldnt say its very exciting though. If you ask me, i would rather go to Singapore Zoo or whatever. I mean, who wouldnt?!

Ok.. let me share with you something hillarious. Me, my niece, my bro in law and sis went to this elephant ride. I didnt want to go at first coz i was damn lazy and tired. Besides there was no one to take picture for us. However i was compelled to join them for the elephant ride. Ok fine...

So i was sitting at the fourth place on the elephant butt that is. Of course dont be silly, those photos arent me. I didnt take a pic of us climbing it. Anyways, the ride was something interesting. Could feel the elephant bone! it was quite nice ride.

Ok after one round, fun was over. We were on our way back to find my parents. They were having tea in a shop somewhere in the zoo. Well well.. then happen a terriying event! i was walking in front relaxly, enjoying giraffe shitting while admiring the green leaves around me. My sis, her husband and my niece was at the back few feet away. Then suddenly i heard my sister screaming;

   my sis   : TOBY!! TOBY!! WATCH OUT!! LOOK BEHIND!!"
   toby      : What the!?

i looked behind, thought that someone in need of rescue. I turned boldfully to attack! then i got freaked out!! AN ELEPHANT WAS RUNNING TOWARDS ME! i screamed;

   toby      : WHAT THE FUCK!!!!

Everyone around me got freaked out too and i evade immediately to my left side! Damn that was so close!

Yea yea.. and eventually everyone burst out laughing in HORROR! i was freaked out as well. The elephant past by me, it was rushing for an elephant show. What the... as it past me by, it smiled at me..

My sister was like laughing out loud! well... that was a great experience. WHat if the elephant was really attacking me?! damn i would have to jump into the giraffe domain as i was quite close to the giraffes. ok folks, when you walk in the zoo,work your eyes to 360 degree around you all the time.

I also had fun time with other animals lah.. cute parrot at front welcoming everyone. that was so sweet. Cute monkeys, small tiny ones, and huge ones like Chimps.. and also met orang utan... her name was Lynda. How sweet.. she was playing with coconuts... Malacca zoo.. may be for fun you can spent your time there lah, if you really want to have a great analysis on animals then dont go Malacca Zoo.. perhaps Australia zoo, or Singapore zoo better.